We all make them. We all have the “oops” moment. We all have that inner voice that says “that was the wrong way to have handled that.” As no one is perfect. Mistakes, miscues, errors, failures, and other perceived bad things happen. Yet, one of your best skills and ultimately your success uses these “uh oh” moments to learn and adapt. And, your “uh oh” may turnout to be the best thing that ever happened.
It is said that the only things that are guaranteed in life are death and taxes. I would like to add – that one will make mistakes. In fact there are cultures, like the Navaho, that say if the “perfect rug is ever woven, the world will come to an end.” Thus, mistakes are taken as signs and are even built in to the weave. Sometimes, failures turn out to be bigger successes than what was trying to be achieved in the first place – take for example the Post-It (TM) and Teflon (TM) – these were experiments gone bad.
Yet, we seem to still focus on the “dark cloud” view of mistakes and not the “silver lining.” These errors are how we learn and grow. I have always said – that you learn much more from your errors, failures, and mistakes than you ever could by just succeeding. As parents and teachers – while it is hard to do – you have to let the “learner” make mistakes (provided they don’t get into serious trouble). If you don’t – how will they ever truly learn.
We are now living in a Society – that tries to remove the “bad things.” It tries to abolish failure – everyone has to succeed. This is such a great dis-service to creating strong individuals.
Think about it. Pick one of your personal achievements. Didn’t you have to overcome some adversity? Didn’t you make an error, or misstep along the way? Was there someone who said – there is no way you can do that – and you had to prove them wrong? Did it take time? My guess is that you would have to say yes to most of the questions above for it to make your list of achievements.
As leaders our job is to guide. In order to make tomorrow’s leaders we have to let individuals make errors – again provided that they do not result in total catastrophe. We can’t remove the consequences of errors either.
If we remove the consequences of the error – we have removed the learning as well. Individuals have to learn how to accept their own mistakes, own them and learn from them. This is what helps us grow.
The ultimate trick is to find the balance between learning, finding the “silver lining” and benefiting from the error and not creating a catastrophe. By understanding our own mistakes – we can learn from others – without necessarily making the same mistake (this helps in the preventing of the catastrophe). As leaders – knowing what “safe” mistakes are is essential. For example – making an error in a presentation to the work group is one thing – making that same error in a presentation to stockholders is another matter.
We as individuals have to become comfortable with admitting our mistakes. We have to work to put things “right”. We have to make amends. Hiding our errors is hurtful – not only to us and our organizations but may be a catastrophe down the road. Our “uh ohs” need to come out in the open – so that everyone can learn from them. When we can laugh about them down the road – we know that we have learned and have found that “silver lining”.